I just recently read an article about the political wife word bashing between the females.
Which leaves me to talk about a topic that comes up many times with my peers.
First you have a select few stay at home housewives who never worked a day in their lives outside of the wifely duties in the home.
Then you have the wife that works full time, plus takes care of the home, tends to her husband, and kids.
Next on the list is the single working mom. The woman who plays mom and dad, becomes the super woman covering all duties and responsibilities around the home and in raising the children on top of bringing home the pay check to take care of her and her children without any child support or assistance. This type of mom never has excuses of being too tired or doesn't have time to do things, etc.
Then we have the stay at home single mom who does not work but gets government assistance. So instead of a husband and her working to bring home the bacon for her and the kids, the tax payer gives her the bacon to stay home.
So out of all of these different "moms", which one is the harder and more responsible, and much more secure woman with more self confidence?
I can tell you that observing many women I teach sewing classes to and many clients that come into my salon, plus many women who have come to the salon and applied for a job, there is quite a difference in their educational skill level for the work force, low self esteem, and a lower confidence level coming from the stay at home mom that now is venturing out into the work force later in life..
Usually the married stay at home wife who never worked a day in her life, was once upon a time the trophy bride.
The stay at home wives who never worked, have everything they could possibly want and still are not happy with themselves.
They never got a career of their own, have no identity of their own except being Mr. Brown's wife, and fear their husband will be on the look out for the next younger second wife.
The working married wife and mother is on equal grounds with her husband.
In these cases, the husband shares more responsibility around the home with the wife because they both are working and they both are pitching in as a partnership in the marriage as parents. This wife is much less insecure of herself and has much more confidence in herself. This type of marriage usually lasts the longest and has the most respect.
The single working mom, she is a super mom !!
Tackling not only being the bread winner, but playing the mom and dad all in one.
Her kids grow up to be independent and more mature and responsible as well.
This single mom has no issues of insecurity. She is too busy making a living to wonder what her self worth is, because she already knows her self worth.
She usually has no time to date, but most of the men that do come into her life, cannot match her stamina and mature responsibilities and in most cases, cannot match her financial income level of what she is making.
Then we have the stay at home single mom who does not work, but collects government assistance checks.
Usually this type of woman had a mother just like her and the vicious circle never ends and keeps repeating from one generation to the next.
Most of these children never have the proper guide or education, and fall into the same vicious circle as mom. And most of their father's ( if they know them) are in and out of jail.
In all these cases, what are the children learning from their parent/parents?
Will the apple fall far from the tree?
Every child is a product of their environment and in most cases will live the same life and ways as they were brought up.
And if you notice, the most successful children who gone on to make a name for themselves usually in business, self employment, music or in acting for example. Many of them usually had single working moms who raised them. Which lead to these children being independent.
Moms play a huge role in the lives of the children.
While many women in the world are still fighting for their equal rights, fighting to be CEO's of companies, equal pay in management, etc., They are still fighting with each other, and the politicians who are trying to tell women how they should live their lives.
The problem we all see here, is the politician who is telling women how they should live their life, has that stay at home housewife themselves.
The stay at home housewife that thinks she understands what a single working mother should or should not do, but yet the stay at home wife never worked or if she did work, never brought home a matching pay check as the husband. Therefore, she was always in the background. Hence her insecurity issues and questions of self worth.
So the war of the women are between those who work and those who do not work in participating to be the bread winners.
Here is a great inspirational article and video to see on the success of a single working mom.
And you might be interested in reading the following article.
Below is a video that is so very inspiring. It shows how a parent helped her daughter in becoming a successful young business woman.
http://www.amiyasdancebus.com/
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